Okay, you have lived for half of a century or more and have experienced good, bad and ugly times. Through it all, did any experience lead to the discovery of your passion and purpose in life? Take time to think about the dreams that you did not pursue or the plans that you started and had to put on the side, the things that you were passionate about but did not pursue. Is the passion still there or did you discover a new passion? Through deep reflection, you will be able to identify your passion. If you discover that you are passionate about a new career, writing, developing a new product line, invention, drawing, gardening, starting a non-profit organization, a support group, or learning a new language, then pursue your passion with vigor and do not let anyone, any situation, or anything keep you from it.
What is your purpose? It is possible that you are the change needed in society, or that you will discover or invent something that will leave your mark on the world, teach, preach or mentor? Discover your purpose and pursue it with every fiber of your being. Once you have discovered your passion and identified your purpose, you will realize your mission, and focus on your vision for the future. Just remember to believe and think positive about everything that you are doing. Believe with the passion and intensity that you felt with your first love. (Ah ha, that jumped started you, or at least I hope it did). Set realistic goals, dream big, and dream in color because you are about to embark on a journey to Destination Fabulous. Your next step is to board the Fabulously Fifty 747 train, Destination Fabulous! By the way, I do mean train.
As you begin preparing for your journey, it is important for you to have balance and peace of mind. Focus on balancing you by taking care of the important and priority matters, of course time for family, friends and work, and last, but not least, time to think about your journey. You are busy planning, organizing, researching, and believing in you and your ability to let your passion fuel your purpose, which will motivate you to stay focused on your mission, as your vision becomes clearer and clearer by the minute. WOW! This is so awesome, so refreshing, and so darn rewarding because you are on your way to Destination Fabulous!
Now that you have discovered your passion, identified your purpose, realized your mission, embraced your vision, and set realistic goals to reach Destination Fabulous, know that change is just beyond the horizon.You have developed a plan (and of course one or two back-up plans, just in case there is a just in case moment, by your own doing) to get you there and have your itinerary imprinted in your mind. You are on your way to living your dreams and being truly happy. You are on your way to Destination Fabulous, the point in your life where you can honestly say that you are in a good place psychologically, emotionally, physically and socially. Destination Fabulous is the place where women of color live life fabulous! You will not allow any negativity to accompany you on your journey because there will not be any room, time or place for it. Therefore, you may have to make a few changes so be prepared.
Before you board the Fabulously Fifty 747 train, seriously evaluate the people you surround yourself with, the people in your inner circle, the company that you keep. Ask yourself if they are bringing too much negative energy to your life. If you are trying to reach higher ground, trying to improve or enhance the quality of your life, ask yourself if the people in your inner circle, etc. have grown significantly over the past five years. Are they trying to reach higher ground or enhance the quality of their lives? Do they respond negatively to your dreams, goals, etc.? Have they embraced your new purpose, mission, and vision for your life? Can they support and respect your journey? Are they bringing too much negativity into your world? If the people within your inner circle are holding you back and stagnating your growth, then it is time to make a decision.
You have a few choices so choose carefully and let the decision be the one that is in your best interest. Choice number one: tolerate their nonsense and allow them to hold you back (but of course, you would never allow anyone or anything to hold you back). You can always consider going to counseling together. Choice number two: put them on notice that you will not tolerate negativity and be firm with them. Choice number three: invite them to exit your life and when you do so, make sure that they exit to the left. Sometimes people do not realize that they are stagnating you and keeping you from reaching your full potential. They may stick pins in your bubbles just as you are ready to fly away with them. In all fairness, sometimes people stagnate you unconsciously and it is important that you tell them about the issue and be honest about your feelings. For those who consciously, intentionally, and deliberately stagnate your growth, open the door. Remember that conscious and unconscious issues can be caused by other people’s insecurities. At the end of the day, when all is said and done, you must decide who is worthy of being a part of your life and whether they are an asset or a liability. This is your life that you will live fabulous by your standards and your terms. Take a stand, be firm and mean it! If you are ready, climb on board!
You will be riding on the Fabulously Fifty 747 train that “will not make any unnecessary stops for any reason” (I cannot remember who stated the quoted content). Unnecessary stops are the stops that you must make in your life to deal with OPD (other people’s drama), negative people, and those who cannot or will not embrace or understand that you are on a journey to Destination Fabulous.
One more point before the train leaves the station, put people on notice that you are not getting off the Fabulously Fifty 747 train unless you are compelled to do so of your own volition. This is your time to enjoy who you are, where you are going, and the journey that you will take to get there. Ride in style being balanced and with peace of mind! I will see you when you get there!
By the way, do not forget to check this off on your Fabulously Fifty Bucket List.
Have a fabulous week!