Having faith in you is as crucial as breathing. With each breath that you take, your body prepares to take the next breath. Likewise, having faith in you and your potential prepares you to continue your journey in life with confidence. You know that each passing moment and experience is preparing you to successfully navigate the murky waters, the shallow waters, and the deep waters with confidence and grace.
As a fabulously fifty woman of color, it is important for you to understand that you live in a society that may not always embrace the beautiful hues of skin tones, hair textures, body shapes, or cultures of women of color. Sometimes people use negative stereotypes and negative perceptions of women of color and try to force you to identify with them or make you believe that you are inferior and that they are superior.
If you begin to believe the negative stereotypes, they can affect your self-esteem, self-love, self-identity, self-pride and self-respect, resulting in you becoming trapped in a psychic prison. As a result, you will begin to display negative attitudes, negative behaviors, and negative thought processes that can lead to you making choices that may defer your dreams, diminish your hopes, and destroy your ability to live life fabulous. Psychic prisons thrive on negativity.
Do not believe the negative stereotypes because as a fabulously fifty woman of color, you are so much more than the negative thoughts, words, or beliefs of people who cannot see the beauty in women of color. To avoid becoming trapped in a psychic prison, consider the following:
Remember that you are not inferior, less worthy, or insignificant because of the color of your skin. Show the world that you will not be a victim or trapped in a psychic prison because you are just too awesome to allow yourself to be trapped by the ignorance of others.
Tell your children/grandchildren that you love them and show them at the same time so that they continue to grow, not only knowing that you love them, but feeling loved. When children feel and know that they are loved, they will not look for love in the wrong places and from the wrong crowd.
Show your children/grandchildren that you love them in little ways that mean the most. A hug followed by “I love you” can build confidence and inspire. Become personable with your children/grandchildren and instead of texting them to say I love you, tell them in person and look into their eyes when you do so that they see the certainty in your eyes.
Motivate them with words of encouragement and remember that elaborate gifts are not substitutes for quality time, love, attention, or affection. When you show and tell, your children/grandchildren will know what love feels like and in turn, they will grow understanding what giving, receiving, feeling, and knowing what love is.
If you have not done so today, show and tell your children/grandchildren that you love them! Words and actions are powerful!
Culbreth, D. (2014). Living Life Fabulous at Fifty: Affirmations for Women of Color.